Traditionally society has disregarded the sexual and emotional needs of disabled people preferring to treat them as asexual and assuming that sex was a non-issue for most. Disabled people too believed themselves to be unattractive, as they did not fit into the usual standards of beauty set by society.
It is little wonder then that many of those living with disabilities or limiting medical conditions have bad self-images and suffer from low self-esteem. Many try to conform to society’s expectations and suppress any sexual desire they may feel. They prefer to ignore their sexuality, as they feel guilty about having such thoughts.
Disabled people have also faced isolation in the area of formal sex education. In line with the general view of – they don’t need it, many sex education programmes overlook the disabled youngster. This leaves many experiencing sexual desires but having no idea of how to handle them or who to turn to for help.
The situation is as difficult for those who face a deliberating or life threatening disease or become disabled suddenly. There are so many issues to cope with at this time that their sex lives are often pushed to the background. However, questions ranging from whether sexual activity is possible to how soon and with what adjustments it can resume remain major concerns. Self-esteem too takes a beating, as the person feels inadequate compared to earlier.
The truth of the matter is that those who suffer from impairments also enjoy sex and have the same longings to be touched and loved as anyone else. However there are not enough counselling services to address these issues. Nor are there many options which let these feelings come out into the open.
The emergence of online dating sites especially for the disabled have indeed made a big difference and set a lot of people free from feelings of frustration. Through these dating sites the disabled single can now connect with others who understand their impairment and initiate new friendships and romantic relationships without fearing rejection.
In addition to setting up dating and matrimonial alliances, the sites also provide an opportunity to network with people all over the globe. Disabled people can log on the web to get advice and information especially on matters related to sex and relationships. They can interact with others through discussion forums, message boards and chat rooms as well as gather knowledge on matters related to disabilities through interesting articles on a wide range of subjects.
Dating sites for the disabled can be both free and commercial. There are sites that are for specific disabilities or conditions like multiple sclerosis or visual impairment alongside those that are more general. Some sites offer adult sex and adult chat rooms while others may simply act as introduction services. Many dating sites have special features that are unique to them.
As a result of this vast variety of information and services on offer, the dating sites have not only educated society but also have also set disabled people free from their inhibitions.